EQ 101

EQ 101

by Kavita Agarwal October 23, 2020

Founder of Disha Counseling in Bangalore providing career and emotional counseling.


What we asked her …

Things they don’t teach you at school, EQ for young graduates – What should young graduates and professionals keep in mind while they are interviewing for different roles ?

What she had to say …

Can an “underdeveloped” nation defeat the world’s largest and most powerful empire?

Gandhi thought so.

Can cars be made available to millions instead of just the wealthy?

Henry Ford thought so.

Can people carry the world’s information in their pocket?

Steve Jobs thought so.

Can you gain the same mindset as the successful?

I think so.

Here’s why: Hidden assumptions & our beliefs prevent us from seeing possibilities. Beliefs are almost always one logical way of looking at a series of events—but they are not always the right way or the only way. As a result, various points of view (about political issues, how children should be educated, or any aspect of Life for that matter) are just different ways of interpreting a series of events.

In the context of career, introspect if these beliefs are coming in your way of destiny designing.

Perfection equals Success:

By nature, human beings are fallible. So, if you’re always aiming for perfection, you’re always left with a nagging sense of failure, and end up spending time lamenting on the things you failed to accomplish, instead of enjoying what you were able to achieve.

My Destiny is predetermined:

Far too many people succumb to the irrational idea that they are destined to succeed or fail. Make no mistake that at the end, your destiny is in your hands. Blaming repeated successes or failures on things you cannot control means you arc copping out. At times, life may deal difficult cards and other times you’ll be holding aces.  Your willingness to give your all in playing any hand you’re holding determines your ultimate success or failure in life.

I “ALWAYS or “NEVER” do that:

There isn’t anything in life that you always or never do. You may do something a lot or not do something enough, but framing your behaviour in terms of ‘always’ or ‘never’ is a form of self-pity. It makes you believe that you have no control of yourself and will never change.  Don’t succumb to it

I succeed when others approve of me:

Regardless of what people think of you, at any particular moment, one thing is certain -you’re never as good or bad as they say you are. It’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, but you can take people’s opinions with a grain of salt. That way, no matter what people think of you, your self-worth comes only from within.

My Past in my Future:

Repeated failures erode self-confidence and makes it hard to believe you will achieve a better outcome later. Most times, these failures result from taking risks and trying to achieve something difficult. So, remember that success lies in your ability to rise in the face of failure. Anything worth achieving is going to require you to take risks. You can’t  allow failure to stop you from believing in your ability to succeed.

My Emotions=Reality:

Know how to take an objective look at your feelings and separate facts from what is fiction. If not, you might want to read it. Otherwise, your emotions will continue to skew your sense of reality, making you vulnerable to the negative self-talk that can hold you back from achieving your full potential.

 

Challenge these beliefs & write your own success story!